\u201cTrust, when nurtured and honoured within a family system can lead to happier, more fulfilling experiences, greatly reducing stress and anxiety. Mistrust, on the other hand, inevitably leads to hurt, tension and misery,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Many believe that trust can be something one demands of another: \u2018You must trust me!\u2019 Research, however, has shown that trust is earned, in small gestures and in moments in time.<\/p>
International speaker Brene Brown said that actions demonstrating trustworthiness are likened to marbles. Every time one demonstrates or actions a trust behaviour, you can put a marble in a jar.<\/p>\n
However, when a behaviour demonstrating mistrust occurs, you can remove a whole handful of those marbles and it will take a lot of hard work to replace the marbles of trust again. Trust is earned.\u00a0 It cannot be demanded of anyone.<\/p>
Parents want their children to trust them and children want the same of their parents. Cindy said that it is up to parents to make the first move in modelling the behaviours that create relationships of trust within the family. Nurturing trust requires action.<\/p>\n
\u201cYour children will most likely model what you do rather than what you say. With patience and love, you can learn to trust each other, despite the difficulties and challenges that you will face as a family.<\/p>\n
\u201cRemember that each action that creates trust is like a marble being put into the \u2018trust jar\u2019. Breaking that trust is like taking a handful of marbles out of the jar. It is way better to consistently build trust than to have to try and regain trust that has been broken,\u201d Cindy added.<\/p>\n