Even if you have been married for years, dating or engaged, splitting your time between each other\u2019s families on Christmas day can cause arguments.
\nWhen trying to split time between families, most couples try to divide the time equally. Unfortunately, life doesn\u2019t work that way. Instead of trying to be equal, try to be fair. Fairness might be spending one Christmas at one family and the next at the other.
\nDon\u2019t commit to anything, but talk to both families about where the celebration will be and what everyone hopes to accomplish this season. Set your boundaries and make it clear that, while you\u2019d like to be with everyone this holiday that may not be possible.
\nIf there\u2019s one side of the family you won\u2019t get to see, plan a gathering for another time, so they know they\u2019ll still get to see you sometime soon.
\nWhen you tell your family you\u2019re not seeing them on Christmas for the first time ever, chances are they\u2019ll be a bit upset. Deal with those hurt feelings head on, and help to make them better.<\/p>\n